How Much is “Family” Considered in Family Law?

Divorce is one of the most challenging things to go through in life. So much of the divorce process is centered around the logistics, the division of assets, alimony payments, child support, and what is legally required of both parties. But it is important to remember that divorce is not just a legal process but also an emotional, life-changing process. How much do we consider a divorce’s emotional toll on a family? There are so many ups and downs for both parents, and the children involved that it can be difficult to see life past the divorce.

It is so important not to lose sight of the fact that the divorce process is temporary, but your life after is forever. Don’t try to knock each other down or kick and scream throughout the entire process of who’s keeping the house or how much one party is paying another. Because after the divorce is complete, you are still a family, just in a new capacity. You will still have to parent your children together, and an open communication line is vital to the overall family’s health. Obviously, the logistics of the divorce are critical, and a great deal of time and consideration needs to go into making those decisions.

But instead of just looking at what decisions are made, you must also consider HOW they are being made. How you come to these decisions and resolutions impacts the future emotional health of your family, for better or for worse. If high tensions and pettiness take over the divorce process, things could be handled improperly, which can lead to much more fighting for years to come. This is why it is encouraged that both parties come to their decisions on their own merit rather than only having court-enforced orders. Mediations and settlements between both parties tend to be followed better than a court order, allowing for more peace and harmony moving forward in life. Don’t let your current emotions blindside you into making decisions that are not in your best interest long term but may feel good at the moment to ‘get even’ with your ex.

This is one of the many reasons why it is vital to work with a family law attorney that actually encourages you to keep your family at the forefront of your decision-making process. At the Burr Law Group, we aren’t looking to bill you for the most hours possible and drag things out in court. We want to keep you grounded and help you come to solutions that put the emotional health of you and your family first.

To learn more about how Karen Burr can help you achieve a family-centered divorce, call us at 732-741-1435.